Big Guy, Little Girl - Some Advice

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Sin,
I am a very short woman with an average build and my partner is a foot taller than I am and outweighs me by about 150 lbs. Can anyone recommend sexual positions that would minimize the awkwardness of our size differences? The more creative, the better.
Thanks!

I can think of just a few in particular that should really work for you. This also applies to most couples with height and weight differences.

1. Cowgirl (you on top). This should work regardless of the size of either of you (unless the girl is really big and the guy's really little, as said before). This gives you complete control and him the chance to relax and enjoy the view. And if you do it reverse (you facing his feet) you have lots of extra space around your pussy to use a vibrator (if the guys got a bit of a gut, using a clitoral vibe can be a bit tough).

2. Standing. The position works well with a shorter woman, when done right. Try standing up against a wall with something nearby to put a foot on. With him in front of you, have him lift you up and push you against the wall (using the stool/chair/whatever to help support you if you need it). Get high enough for him to enter you and wrap you leg/legs around him. Then go for it.
This takes some balance from you and some strength from him, but is great for those passionate, desperate love-making sessions.

3. You sitting, him standing. This is simply when you sit on a surface that's at a good height for him to enter you without having to bend his knees or stand on his toes too badly. Kitchen counters, dining room tables, and washing machines should all work pretty well.
It's good because height shouldn't really matter, and if he's a little too tall, he should be able to bend enough to enter you without too much trouble.

Doggy Style might work, but it depends on how different the height is as far as your legs go. It can be tough when your legs, thighs especially, are too close or too different in height. At least, that's how I see it.

I'm sure you're well acquainted with missionary, but if you have trouble with it because of height or size, try with your legs over his shoulders, or both legs and hips over to one side. Having your legs over the side of the bed (or anything else) might work as well. This is also true with Doggy Style, with you on your knees in front of the bed, or leaning over a table, your chest on the bed and him entering from behind.

Really, you just have to be creative. Buy a book on Sex Positions and experiment with what floats your sexy boat!

Good luck!
~Sin

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Bye Bye Entrecard

No Top Droppers for this month, or any other month for that matter, because as it turns out Entrecard dropped me.

No idea why they suddenly decided that I was no longer "appropriate" for their "family friendly" site. I mean, I haven't posted any boobs lately, have I?

Either way, I am no longer able to access my account, so don't have my statistics or the nifty advertising opportunities.

Oh well, fuck you too Entrecard. Bite my sexy, inappropriate ass.

In other news, my last day at "the day job" is tomorrow, so starting Monday I'll have more time to do the psuedo-sexy stuff, with sexy things, that you love to hear about. At least, I hope you do.
Until around the 20th, I'll have no other job but this blog, so you'll probably be hearing from me a lot.


Hopeful pieces of interest this month include:

• The comeback of the Positions of the Week. (although it might be every other week...also maybe an adult product of the week, but that's less likely) Yay! That seemed to be something popular that just dissipated as I got lazy...
  
• More relationship advice, thanks to me attempting to jump-start a dating column for the paper.
• An orgasm experiment! I'm considering the idea of seeing how many orgasms I can have in one day (or several days), while still actually getting things done.
• The last few parts of the Something Sweet To Suck On experiment(hopefully), including garlic, sweet potato, chocolate, and cayenne pepper.
• My full analysis of the Orgasm Loop, a book about achieving orgasms during sex, which EF sent me to review this past month.
• A possible new article series about porn! Am currently looking for a porn rental site (if you know of any, drop me a line), for a new group of articles/reviews about porn- for women who don't like porn (and the men/women who love/fuck them).
• More erotica for your personal enjoyment, if I can cough it up.

February should hopefully see some valentines day posts. Including sexy date ideas, what to have for dinner, and what toys, books, and videos you should have for bedtime. Hopefully February will also see the beginning and end of the series of posts I've been wanting to do about people in the sex industry. It seems like an appropriate time.


Well, that's all for now, see you soon!

Have fun, Play safe.
~Sin

Position of the Week %

Currently Reading: Sex Detox: Recharge Desire. Revitalize Intimacy. Rejuvenate Your Love Life. by Ian Kerner, Ph.D.

Quick Disclaimer: Typically I try to keep my images as PG-13 as possible, because I want this site to be about fun and information, not porn. Due to a lack of availability, however, today's pictures do contain nudity, so I'm telling you ahead of time. So now you know.

The Side Clasp
Also called: Modified T-Square

I couldn't wait to get her on the bed and get her clothes off. She slipped off her dress, and pulled off what was left of my clothes. For a second, we were just two naked people, able to see each others physical inadequacies. But only for a second.
Before too long we were on each other again. She pushed her lips to mine and jerked my head so fast and hard I though I'd have whiplash. My wild woman.
I finally pushed her onto her back and that's where we started. She watched as I rolled her hips to the side. Her eyes following my every motion until I was inside her. Then they closed, a sigh falling from her lips.
I rocked back and forth inside her like the ocean, and every exhale she made was as sweet as a song. I placed my hand on her ass and she made the sexiest moan as I dragged my nails down the meat of her thigh.
The noise made me thrust harder, and her gasps came faster.
Harder.
Faster.
Harder.
Faster.
It seemed almost endless. But it wasn't. Before too long, it was over. We cried out almost in unison, our breath evenly paced as I trembled inside her. She smiled sweetly, and I simply collapsed next to her.

~Coal Confidential (W.)

Directions:

*Woman (or receiving partner) lays down, legs bent at a right angle to one side. She should be positioned in a way that from above she looks an L, or one part of a swastika. Whatever.
*(or penetrating partner) kneels in front of her, pelvic bones about at the same level, and enters her (wherever).
-She'll probably have to open her legs a bit to let him in, but then she should squeeze them together good and snug.
Then you go at it.

This one has its ups and downs. The position is a bit awkward, but not uncomfortable.
Overall, here's the deal:

This is good for a guy whose size is above average, because the penetration isn't all that deep. In guides it says penetration is deeper than usual, but in practice, it was quite the opposite.
That, however, is mostly because the guy the girls hip bone bumping up against his pelvis/stomach and getting in the way. So for a "larger" guy with a smaller girl, it keeps penetration for him pretty shallow, but she still feels like it's a deeper thrust. But for a guy who's average or less, this probably would just keep him from getting the full feeling of being inside, plus bug the hell out of him.

(By the way, I could barely find any information or picture for this position, so the images are pretty much whatever I could find close enough to match more or less.)

In practice I (we) wasn't too fond of this position, and ended up switching out pretty quickly. The penetration wasn't deep enough for in a good enough angle that I felt it nearly enough, and W found it hard to feel enough as well because of the pressure of my ass bone grinding into his pelvis. It also doesn't allow for the use of a vibrator, because the woman's legs are pressed together (although the closed thighs can provide extra tightness for the guys-that's good), which is another bummer. Even a vibrating cock-ring wouldn't work right unless it was turned to the side, and that could be awkward.
But, as with most positions, with the right amount of practice and communication, I'm sure it's very possible to make it work for you and your partner.


That's pretty much it for tonight. This wasn't a particularly interesting or successful position, so I'm a bit empty on things to say. Hope this was worth the 5 minutes you spent reading it.

Tried this position? Loved it? Hated it? Made it better? Let me know!
I want to hear about all your trials, tribulations, crazy nights, and mundane experiences!
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Play safe!
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Currently Watching: The Secretary :: Starring Maggie Gyllenhaal & James Spader

This weeks position is: "The Rising"
Also called Right Angle Position, The Yawning.

In movies and porn you often see couples going at it in something like missionary, but with the womans legs against the guys chest, her high-heeled feet dangling behind his back. This is something like that, but just a little bit more complex.

Directions:
Here the woman lies on her back, the man standing on his knees in front of her. He grips her legs and she supports herself with her hands above/behind her on the bed or headboard as he lifts her legs up and rests them against his body, her ankles on either side of his head. The woman now should have her hips off the bed/ground, and both her legs firmly against the mans body, with their pelvises in line with each other. The guy can hold her legs either at the ankle, knees, or thighs, but preferably her hips while her legs rest inside his elbows, and he penetrates in this position. Traditionally, he should move in "slow circular motions" while she stays still.

So lets talk about this one, one gender at a time.

Guys: You're probably going to love this. Probably. Despite the work it takes to get everything situated, the depth of insertion here (according to W) is fantastic. The womans vagina is shortened a little bit, so your penis goes all the way in, and completely "fills" her.
There's little effort on your part really, except for the fact that your standing on your knees, which can get tiring after a while. And here you have almost total control over speed, pressure, and depth.
"It was hard to keep a grip, but the angle of penetration was...nice. It felt good. It felt open." -W


Ladies: You...might like this. If you have decently strong abs, don't get tired too easily, and don't mind your legs falling asleep halfway through, sure.
The angle isn't uncomfortable once you get used to it, it's just a bit odd the first time, so comfort isn't a really a problem here. Except for your legs... But if you're really into it, my negative comments can be thrown to the wind, because all this one really takes is practice.
The angle does give lots of space for a decent view, or for a vibrator to slip in and give you an extra boost when wanted.
I bet this also burns twice as many calories than regular missionary, simply because of how your fighting to keep up your hips. A great ab workout. Mix that with the good vibrator area, and you've got yourself a pleasurable-and productive- time. ^-^
Although you should definitely skip this one if you have neck or back problems.


I have to say that this is one worth trying, at least, especially if your willing to do the practice ("make research", as W says quite often). I only tried it once, and only for a little while, and because I definitely don't have the abs to hold myself up like that, my personal discomfort shouldn't deter you from at least trying it next time you hop into bed. If you're looking for something new and interesting, this should be on your list.

The angle and depth alone make it worth trying, if only for the guy, and if your the adventurous type, it's pretty cool just to be able to say "Yeah, I did that one". So I say give it a shot.


Tried it? Loved it? Hated it? Found one better? Let me know! Email me at Sinsekret@gmail.com or AIM me under SinSekret.

Sorry no erotica this time, but I've got the next one almost done (already!), and there is a short story, and it's by W, so it's something different.
By the way, we've hit over 1,000 hits so far this month! Fucking awesome!!!

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Currently Reading: The Little Bit Naughty Book of Kama Sutra Positions (Little Bit Naughty Book Of...) by

This week, lets do a simple one especially for the guys out there.

Reverse Cowgirl

This is a variation of the Cowgirl position, which essentially is just the woman on top. The Cowgirl allows the man to relax more and enjoy the ride while the woman is able to control the speed, thrusting, etc to her own comfort.
The Reverse Cowgirl offers these same benefits, plus a few others, and many variations (hence all the pictures). Let's talk about them all.

We'd only been in our first position for a few minutes before he sat up, pulling me with him, and lifted my body above his.

"Turn around" he growled, laying out and placing me over his hips. I did as he said, straddling him, and found myself facing the wall, his legs sprawled out in front of me and him entering me from underneath. I wasn't sure what to do but began to move slowly, teasingly slow.

My hips rocked forward gently, raising ever so slightly to pull myself away from him, only to thrust back quick but careful. I could hear his moans behind me as I moved. I leaned forward and was met with a harsh, pleasured groan as the angle of his entrance changed and my inner muscles clenched around him. I grabbed hold of his knees, rough and dry from earlier activities on the floor, and thrust myself harder against him.

His nails found the skin of my thighs, digging into the flesh, making my back arch and my breath catch in my throat. He grabbed me by that flesh and lifted me, then slammed be back down, thrusting himself harder and harder inside me. The sensation was sharp and wonderful, spreading from that center within, up through my pelvis and stomach, making my mind whirl and my thoughts loose focus.

I rocked my hips, harder, faster, matching his movements, driven by his erotic cries. Deeper, fuller, rougher, stronger. I found myself dancing above him to a chorus of him moaning my name.
-Sin Secret

First, as I said, this position lets the man sit back and enjoy the show. Basic positions like Missionary, Doggy Style, etc, typically have the man "in charge", with more control. While this can be great most of the time because the guy gets to kind of do whatever he wants, I'm sure it can get tiring, always doing the most work. This position allows him the chance to not have to do any work, and just be able to enjoy the sex. Supposedly it can even prolong the man's erection.

Second, this allows the woman a "seat of power" throughout the act. She can control how fast you go, the angle of entry, and how deep the thrust is. It is also said that the right angle here can hit the G-spot just right.

A quick note to you potential reverse cowgirls; make sure you give yourself time to adjust to the new position. If you're new to it, you'll have to start slowly so that your vagina and the muscles around it adjust to the new way the penis is entering, otherwise it can be a bit of a pain.

Now, for guys the regular Cowgirl provides a view of the womans thrusting body and bouncing chest. Unfortunately the Reverse doesn't allow that so much. If a mirror is included, it could, and that is quite common, but otherwise the only thing you get a good view of is your partners ass. That can be good or bad depending, but hopefully you like her ass. Either way, it provides a good view for those who are especially attracted to that part of the body. This does give you the thighs to grab on to, which can be very sexy if you or your girl are into nails or tight grips, and the fact that the thighs are within reach means that in extreme bouts of passion, the man can grab the woman and increase the speed or thrust, if he so pleases.
Depending on the size of the two of you, the man may have enough reach to fondle the pubic area/clitoris, or the breasts. This is especially true if the woman leans back, as in the picture to the side. The woman can also lean forward onto the mans bent knees, which can provide her support, a different angle, and a little better control. Also allows the guy more moving room.

It also has to be mentioned to be careful! In this position the penis can end up at an odd angle, which can become very uncomfortable for the guy (and girl), but can also hurt something very very badly. You'd think a penis would be hard to "break", but in certain positions is actually rather easy.
Ever had a girl on top and she went up a little too far and came down a little too fast? Caught the penis somehow and made a scary POP sound? I know I've done that quite a few times with W. It can get a little nerve-wracking, makes us stop and take a breather. If done right (or maybe that should be wrong), that POP can create permanent damage, especially in the Reverse position because you can easily and unconsciously bend the penis too far back. So watch yourself.
I assume this can also be used for anal sex, but would carry similar warning signs. Mixing the awkward position with the fragility of the anal tissues could be worrisome. But I'm sure it can be done. I'll have to ask someone about that...

Personally, I haven't tried this one in quite a while, because lately I've been sticking to some tried and true favorites, more than branching out to different ones. But occasionally I enjoy being on top, and this one is one I sometimes choose. Although, (to me) seems a bit less awkward than the Cowgirl because you're not facing your partner, but also a bit more awkward because you're facing the guys toes instead.

But really, it depends what you're into. This is definitely liked, because it's in porn all the time, and it's no wonder when you get to see the girl bouncing, moaning, and writhing above you (or whoever you're watching).

That's all for today!
Play safe!

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(Late) Position of the Week @

"In this position, the receiving partner crouches on all fours with the legs slightly spread, while the penetrating partner penetrates the receiver vaginally or anally from behind." - Wikipedia

I promised a position today, so I have to deliver, but today it's going to be something you've probably already heard of. Let's talk about Doggy Style. (I like to call it Doggy Fashion thanks to the mentioned below. It sounds more fun.)

You may think, oh thats stupid, everybody knows about/does that already. But I picked this one today because I think it's one that is common but under appreciated, and, in fact, not everybody knows about it.

I have a friend, A, who is currently abroad. Unlike me she is very very Christian, but like me she is very very crazy. She has a fantastic imagination and a surprisingly obscene personality. We had a writing class together, and once had dinner afterwards with a group of my friends- including my best friend E. Bell, my ex-best friend B, and my co-worker friend D. After explaining a horrible sex prank that an ex had described to me to the table, I had to reiterate it to A because she hadn't heard me.

I start off "Okay, so, the couple goes at it from behind and-"
"Wait, what?"
I paused, really confused, she stopped me before I'd even gotten a sentence out, and I didn't understand what she didn't get.
"...The couples having sex from behind..."
Her eyes got kinda wide, and she looked pretty shocked and lost. It took a minute for me to get that she was talking about the sex itself.
"Wait," she says, really loud and high, "you mean, you mean people do that?! W-Why would you do that? I mean, people really do that?? Why??"
At this point I'm laughing so hard I can't breath. The look on her face was one of pure terrified innocence, and the way she freaked out, I couldn't believe it. D was nearest, and she was laughing with me, if a bit less spazmatically, but B and Bell were talking, and I had to do my own portrayal of her reaction for them, which was really fun.

A is one of my favorite people in the world, and I miss her lots, but this story (which is much funnier when I actually tell it, I promise), is brought up again and again because I love it so.

Anyway. Back to the point.

Doggy Fashion is a position of sex that emulates when a pair of dogs (or many other types of animals for that matter) have sex. It's, most simply, having sex with a man behind the woman who is on all fours (typically), and entering her from behind (typically vaginally, but this makes anal entry common as well).

This position is popular for many, many reasons. One being that the physical location and motion allows for deeper penetration, which is great for both guy and girl, typically. Supposedly this is also a good angle from which to reach the G-Spot.

Second, this position allows for crazy amounts of variation. From positions where the woman (or other man, in relevant cases) more so lays her upper body on the floor, rather than being on all fours- which creates a much more interesting and penetrative (not to mention exposed) angle, to being bent over an object such as a desk, table, counter, what-have-you, to many more that probably couldn't even be described.

Third, this angle allows the man a more "in control"- as W puts it- feeling. There is more freedom in this position; freedom of motion, of thrust, of speed, and of sensation, not to mention of the whole act itself. There is no direct face to face contact- which could be good or bad, depending- and even little skin to skin contact, which a man can control from this angle, by leaning closer, touching the back displayed before him, or clutching the chest of the woman from around her (which are bouncing around due to the thrusts, and can also be considered "hot"). Some men even feel they can control their erection a bit better from this position, and it prolongs their performance, which may or may not be true.

This position was actually recommended to me by a gynecologist once, claiming it would relieve pressure on my abdomen and body in general. I think he must have never actually done it though, because he would have known that though it takes away physical pressure from the body weight and friction, it definitely increases pressure because of the extra thrusts and energy behind them.

Which, by the way, is why I dig this position. So much more deep penetration, harsher thrusting, more sensations, and I don't have to do much except keep myself from relaxing. I will admit to being extraordinarily lazy every once in a while in bed, because very often I have to work so damned hard to "get myself off". So when I know it's not going to happen, or it already has, I sort of give up trying and let myself enjoy the ride.

Every time I think of doggy style now, I think of two things. One is that friend of mine A, and the other is Eddie Izzard, and his joke about Procreation.

"And there’s a moral to this story. Or at least there was supposed to be a moral, but because I’m dyslexic, it is, in fact, a marble. Thank you, good night." - Eddie Izzard




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What's Your Flavor; Postion coming tomorrow, I promise!

Unfortunately, no Position of the Week at the moment. I haven't had sex in days, and haven't been up for the research. But tell you what, if your up to doing the research yourself, the position I was going to do this week was the Brazilian Bedlock. Another fairly simple one, not kama sutra, just a position, but it appealed to me when I found it.

On another sort of review note, I finished My Horizontal Life: A Collection of One-Night Stands, and I'm glad I did. It was witty, well done, fun, and-honestly- hilarious. Got my friend G to read some of it in class and she spend the entire period reading it, and now I'm obligated to lend it to her since I'm done. :-) I'm definitely glad I got it. Great read; lots of sex, lots of fun.


With nothing much else to talk about until I deliver on this weeks position, I spent most of the day wasting money- shame on me- and sucking down margaritas, which I now have an unhealthy love for.

Has anyone ever actually looked at Wikipedia's Sexual Intercourse page? It's pretty interesting, although really I just like the paintings and images, which is also why I adore the Guide To Getting It On- which has loads of interesting and awesome drawings.

Lets make it clear that I'm not big on porn, not really, but I'm a bit of an anomoly when it comes to nudity and sexual images. I love them. When W said he didn't think I'd want to go see Harold & Kumar 2, I gave him an astonished look and said "Well, there's going to be boobs, right? Of course I'll go see it." It's the actual sex act that doesn't turn me on nearly as much.

Unfortunately they were really pushing the bar in this sequel, and there was also ugly penis as well, which was a bit frightening, but at least there wasn't discrimination...

Anyway.

Tomorrow there will be a position of the week, I promise. Either the Brazilian Bedlock (above), or another simple one. I'm thinking of going for a different one, because I'm having trouble finding anything on the Bedlock.

So, while I'm on the subject, What's your favorite Sexual Postition?

Position of the Week - Numero !

Currently Reading: The Little Bit Naughty Book of Kama Sutra Positions (Little Bit Naughty Book Of...)


In my little poll there, I have gotten a decent amount of response on what people would like to see most on this site. As I slightly expected, sexual tips and positions were voted for the most. So, instead of hoping to eventually write about something useful, I decided to do a weekly short post on sexual positions. A simple (PG-13 rated) image will be accompanied by basic instructions, perhaps some history, and why it is useful.
Hopefully this will be helpful and also decently interesting. Please leave as much feedback as possible, and I will work to make the process better as time goes on.
Later this week I also hope to start other weekly posts like books, websites, and toys.


The Lotus Position
This is a fairly basic position from simple Kama Sutra. You know that cross-legged position people use in yoga and meditation? Yeah, that one. It's called the Lotus position, I believe.

Well, in sex, the Lotus position is essentially this, except the two partners are sitting in this position together, with the woman in the lap of the man, with his legs crossed under her, and her legs crossed around him.

This image to the left is a sort of variation of it, where the legs aren't crossed. This can be useful if the woman is too short or not flexible, and straddling him with her ankles crossed behind his back is uncomfortable.
It's very important that you never do something that is uncomfortable for you or your partner- physically or psychologically.

This position is good because it gives a lot of balanced control. The man can be in control by lifting/shifting the woman with his arms or hips, or the woman can be in control by moving herself. And both can happen at once, creating a great balance.
Also great because it allows you to look into each others faces, kiss, and stroke the front of each other.

I do think it could be less useful for men with smaller penis'. It does not typically allow quite as much penetration (although it can if you position yourselves right) as other positions do, so it might not benefit partners with slightly smaller tools. But, that could be completely off track, it worked more or less just dandy for me and mine.

Incorporating hardware, this might be the perfect time for a vibrator For Her. One of those Durex Play vibrating cock rings might work perfectly, because the genital/pubic areas are constantly close, so you'll rarely ever be away from the sensations. Or try a strap-on vibrator (a regular clitoral one would work fine, it's just annoying having to hold it there with your hands squished between bodies), and other toys like blindfolds, and would probably be good to do on a flat surface like the floor.

Hope that's okay for the first one. Don't forget to let me know if there's anything that might make these things better. ^-^

Tried this position? Let me know what you thought of it! Leave a comment or email me to give me your personal feedback.