Tuesday, July 1, 2008

Entitled to Sex? or "Fuck Him"; An Unorganized Bit of Theory on Female Evolution

Our society has somehow created a male mentality that they are entitled to sex. That they need it, deserve it, and shouldn't be denied it.

In high school boys only want girls if they'll put out. Once they do, they're used, dirty, slutty. Yet if they don't, they're prudish, teasing bitches. This trend doesn't really end after high school, it just goes on in different ways.

Case in point, my friend G recently tossed a guy who, after less than a few weeks, called her a cunt because she wouldn't have sex with him.

I'm not exactly what you'd call a raging feminist, but there are parts of our society that you can't deny, including the superiority men have had throughout most of our "civilized" history.

One of the worst products of that superiority, it seems to me, is the male viewpoint that sex is their right. I have no idea how this really came about, but it is one of the top things I blame for high incidences of rape as well as the Madonna-Whore idea, and women's inability to be sexually equal to men.

We have created every aspect of male mentality. Every sexual thing men think, we as a society have put there. We've taught men that they should be hunters. Why? More than likely, any primal society would have had both men and women hunters because everyone would have had to be put to work. Yet this mentality that men have to be in control is still there, because our past societies have put it there. Then there's the idea that men NEED sex, we put it there! Men don't need sex any more than women do, but we've given them this huge gap of logic when it comes to this area. Why?

There's no denying that women have different sex drives than men nowadays, but maybe that's society's fault too?

Perhaps women have been dealt the low hand in evolution. Maybe once upon a time women were as sexually active as any man standing next to them, because they got the same strong, evident urges as men do now, and were pleasured just as easily, were considered just as sexual.

When the more dominant patriarchal societies came along, and got more and more powerful, our sexuality became less needed. Over time as women were more and more often considered sexual objects instead of sexual beings (even, and especially, in religiously dominated societies such as the Christian Europe and Muslim Middle East), we had less and less use of our sexual pleasures, and evolution gave up on us.
While men continued to grow sexually, women were stunted. Sexual pleasure was no longer a value to women, it was a deformity, it became a liability and Mother Nature said "Well, if you don't want it..." and now women (while we still have sex, want it, and enjoy it) just aren't to par with male sexuality.
Part of that is in our mentality, yes, just like mens sexuality has been warped with myths about needed and deserving sex, ours has been tainted with thoughts of immorality and romance over sexuality. But that mental stunting wouldn't change so much of our physical inadequacies, would it?

Think I'm wrong about the inequality?
It could take a woman up to an hour to have a single orgasm, and not even through intercourse, while it takes most men ten minutes. I'm not saying the ridiculous stereotypes of women not needing or enjoying sex like men do are true, but there is a definite unbalance between the two which I think wasn't always there.

No matter how much we strive to own our sexuality. To love our bodies and take hold of our own orgasms, we've still been dealt the short stick.


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4 comments:

Outraged Man said...

I don't know I just think that if women loosened up a bit this world would be in a better place. I mean I know men are alway pursuing and women are always closed legged. But I mean us men love it because it feels good. You can't deny that. If it feels good just do it. But the other thing that hold women back is the fact that they CANNOT do it without falling in love. why? Now I'm not saying sleep around but why can't it be just that? sex! No drama, no relationship no nothing. Enjoy it for what it is. Enjoy the moment. This is why we men never feel used because we enjoy the moment but women are always looking for that extra something.

Maybe we're just built that way. Don't get me wrong there is nothing better then to make love with the love of your life but what if you're single and just don't want to deal with a relationship. Does that bar us from EVER having sex unless we are willing to commit? NO! Not in my book!

SinSecret said...

You have valid points, but I think that's the issue here. Maybe women aren't naturally love-driven and leg-locked; we make them that way. We keep them from enjoying sex just for sex (I won't even go into the religious moral aspects of it) just like we have taught men that going for what feels good is okay. I don't mean just in our lifetime, but in the span of our society.
*shrug* it makes sense in my head.

Alexis-Marie said...

Outraged Man. :

I put on my blog that sex is about a connection between 2 people in a divine state

http://thetinkerbell-walk.blogspot.com/2008/06/i-need-to-open-my-eyes.html

Maybe cause girls feel more than men do, we connect better. Well, we are the sensitive sex aren't we. LOL. We cry for everything and men, well they just have a sit on the chair. Honestly there is definitely more to sex than just banging.

AND

If you're single and you can't get laid..

Go get a hooker!

ps: use a condom :)

Alexis-Marie said...

Oh hey Sin,

I love your post. It really made me think about women. Cause if our ancestors could have done it, maybe we are who we are due to human nature. :) Programmed that way.
I never saw it from this perspective before ;)

Good one

I'm linking you :)